BONUS!!!
FREE MINI LESSON!!!
You’ve been able to make some decisions. You’ve looked at your
fear and why you feel that fear and why you don’t want to do
some things. How do you feel? Are you excited, or are you
still knotted up, and nervous? If you feel excitement then you
are on your way to begin enjoying life. If you still feel that
you are unsure about the decisions you’ve made, then I would
suggest going back and look at what you want, and what your
fears are.
The time has come for you to say “yes” to your life. Open
yourself up, relax your body and say “yes”. This means that you
are agreeing to those things that life is handing us. When you
do this then you are allowing your body to remain calm, reducing
stress and anxiety. What could be better than that? I firmly
believe that this would help our physical health as well as our
mental health.
When a person says “no”, they are blocking energy, and
providing themselves with emotional upheaval. Also by saying
“no”, you create within yourself wasted energy, and exhaustion.
Saying “no” sometimes you will find yourselves saying these
phrases: “How could this happen? What did I do? I can’t
cope.” All this is doing is creating apathy, and emotional
distress.
Saying “yes” helps you deal with your day-in and day-out
disappointments. That three letter word “yes” can mean the
difference between having a rotten day, and having a great day.
Think about it for a moment…”Yes I can run a marathon, take this
new job, walk again, and go on this date or whatever you would
like to do. Saying “no” keeps you stagnant, isolated, and
grumpy. Do you like being grumpy? I don’t. To me being grumpy
means that other people who come in contact with me will become
just as grumpy. Remember the Law of Attraction: what we put our
energies into we attract.
Just by saying yes, means that pain doesn’t go away. Pain is
inevitable. But it’s how we deal with the pain that makes us
better. For instance, I was playing volleyball, and I went up
for a nice wonderful spike. I didn’t want to touch the net, so
I twisted a little and landed on only my right foot. You
guessed it I tore all three ligaments on the outside of my
ankle. This gave a new meaning to the phrase: “I’ve fallen and
I can’t get up.”
I was in pain. I was not happy. But you know what? I didn’t
let it get me down, or depressed. Truthfully I was close to
depression. The funny part is that I was lying on the table
getting my ankle wrapped, and a plaster cast, that I remembered
I hadn’t even started my Christmas shopping. I had two weeks to
get that done. I was now in a cast, and on crutches. I
couldn’t believe my luck. I didn’t know how I was going to get
that shopping done, hobbling along with extra appendages.
The universe sent me help. A friend of mine volunteered to
take me Christmas shopping early one Saturday morning. I said
“Yes, let’s do that.” Back when this took place, I was more
stubborn than I am now. I didn’t like to accept help. But this
time I decided that I needed it. So, instead of wallowing in my
depressed state, stating: “No, how can this be? What am I going
to do? Everyone will just have to get nothing from me, and deal
with it.”
I am sure that you know of someone that has overcome a
disability, and risen up from their circumstances to go above
and beyond what was expected. Maybe you know of someone who
became blind and now functions very well. Maybe you know of
some soldier who has come back from Iraq or Afghanistan without
an arm or a leg, and whose attitude is remarkable. They are
saying yes to life.
There is pain in life. The pain can be one that can be
overcome, or the pain can be one of disdain, hopelessness or
depression. The choice is yours. By saying “yes” to life you
are creating a much happier solution to your pain. By saying
“no” you are creating a much darker world. Remember that if you
acknowledge your pain of suffering, then you can bring about
many pleasantries in your life. Denial of such pain will bring
much hardship, anger, and keep you feeling powerless.
When you agree to life, you will begin to create meaning and
purpose in whatever life hands you. You will begin to channel
resources to find constructive healthy ways to deal with adverse
situations. You will become alive with many possibilities and
opportunities. Also remember that the world is full of people
who have been handed the “worst case scenario” and they have
come out wealthy, productive wonderful citizens. We are all
capable of being winners, and our efforts are worth the steps.
The steps according to Susan Jeffers Ph.D. from her book:
Feel the Fear…And Do It Anyway are as follows:
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Stay Conscious and create an awareness of when you are
saying “no”.
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Physically shake your head up and down to say “yes”. She
states that there is something very affirming about moving
your head to say “yes.” Your whole body will begin to feel
positive.
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Physically relax your body. Know where your tension lies,
and move your consciousness to that area.
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Look for ways to create value from all experiences. Ask
yourself questions about your experience. What can I learn
from this experience? How can I use this to my advantage?
How can I better myself?
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Be patient. To feel frustration, and gloom is easy. Just
keep noticing yourself and your reactions. Keep aware of
how you feel and when you begin to feel that you are saying
“no”, and then go through these steps again.
Attitude is everything. We’ve heard it said many times.
Saying “yes” is an attitude adjustment. You are creating a
positive meaningful life. The decisions you’ve made thus far,
and saying “yes” to them are the key to maintaining a positive
outlook.
Exercises
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Look back at your goals and decisions you’ve made. What
can you say “yes” to right now?
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Do you know of someone who has overcome a disability? What
kind of attitude do they have now? Do you think it was easy
for them to get to this place?
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Read your list of decisions and goals which ones feel really
good to you? Which ones seem like they will give you
energy? Are there any that feel as if they are negative?
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Go through those five steps during the next week. How does
it feel to say “yes” and monitor your inner and physical
self?
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